Childhood Environments Have a Greater Impact on a Child's Future Than We Think

An example of a caring family

Dan and Matt are young boys who are growing up in two distinct types of households.  Dan’s parents are very supportive, loving, and show affection toward him.  They have a strong and intimate bond with their son.  In comparison, Matt’s relationship with his parents is poor in emotional support and he doesn’t feel close to his father or his mother.  The lack of emotional bonding between Matt and his parents is a direct cause for Matt’s inability to form proper intimate relationships with others as an adult.  Instead of having intimacy as the bonding factor in his adult relationships, Matt relies on having complete control over the other person.

 

A compared, belittled child may never feel that his or her life is meaningful

 

A child who has a very poor emotional bond with his or her parents may also feel like he or she has to constantly impress his or her parents to get their approval.  However, in most cases, one or both parents never show their child any signs of approval and belittle their child instead.  The parents compare the child to his or her siblings, who according to the parent(s) are better than said child.

 

Wounds from physical abuse

In addition to emotional abuse, parents may inflict physical abuse on their children.  Abusive parents choose to strike their child on the head as punishment for misbehavior.  Repetition of this punishment leaves the child with a greater risk of growing up to become a serial killer.  Since a trusting member in his or her family is abusing the child, he or she may be unable to cope with the stress of the trauma.  In the future, the serial killer commits murder because of the unrelieved stress associated with the childhood trauma.

 

John Wayne Gacy

Famous serial killer, John Wayne Gacy endured both physical and emotional abuse from his father as a child.  Gacy’s father compared him to his sisters and called him “dumb and stupid”.  Despite these accusations, Gacy strived to make his father proud of him.  Unfortunately, he was never able to.  When Gacy was four years old he disarranged previously assembled car engine parts and his father beat him with a leather belt.  Damage to Gacy’s body was so great during these beatings that years later, he experienced blackouts.  Despite doctors’ inability to diagnose his medical condition, his mother and sisters believed that the blackouts were directly correlated to his father’s physical abuse.

 

Gacy had no method of physically getting revenge on his father for abusing him.  Instead, he chose to unconsciously seek his revenge by raping and murdering teenage boys and young men.  Emotional and physical abuse can serve as an unconscious motive of a future adult serial killer.

 

All of my previous posts about the common characteristics of serial killers may have left you wondering, how on earth do I prevent my child from growing up to become a serial killer if he or she has some of these characteristics?  The answer, my friends is a  few weeks  away!